We really cannot live above what we think.
Don’t you find this to be true in all of your life? If I think I am going to fail at something, I more than likely will. And if I decide the world stinks one day, I only see stinky things that at. It’s true in all of life, and certainly applies to exercise as well.
So, I have to ask:
Where are your thoughts while you exercise? Are you thinking about how much you hate it, how frustrated you are about not losing weight> Is your mind filled with “man, this feels great!”? A negative thought life will keep you from coming back to exercise… It’s not that you have to smile the whole time; it’s more about being real, recognizing your crooked thinking patterns and changing them so that you can actually begin to enjoy your workouts.
Unrealistic expectations is also a form of distorted thinking that hinders you in the short and the long run/fun. And you know I’m all about having fun while we have to do what we have to do! So here is one key for you: Give yourself credit for your successes, regardless how tiny they may seem to you. Celebrate each tiny step, and you will surely build momentum towards more. Every choice you make toward health is a success.
Do you make “white lie” excuses for your lack of discipline? The weather is too bad, the gym is too far, my dog needs me at home… blaming external factors makes it easier to avoid taking responsibility for your choices, but at the end, you and I know that you are the one who will suffer. Take a look at your workout routine, and try to figure out why you are not sticking to it. Are your workouts too hard? Boring? Are you trying to do it alone even though you are a social exerciser? Come on over to Barb’s Fit U classes, we have a ball! I always say that all you’ve got to do is show up; I’ll take care of the rest.
Do you equate your self-worth with your success? Hmm… that’s a big one! When you fail at losing weight, you feel like a failure, and when you succeed, you tell yourself you are it? Keep things in perspective: your body is only one facet of who you are. You are not your body. Your body image is not you! Got it? Learn to focus on who you really are and not only on what your body looks like; and be patient with yourself—this is a new skill that takes time to develop.
You are you. Your body shape may not conform to your definition of “perfect,” but part of growing up has to do with seeing your strengths and stopping the unhealthy comparison to others. Your abilities are unique in many ways. Let yourself focus on what you love about your body today! Take a step back and choose to look at yourself as a whole instead of picking apart every visible flaw in your body.
Choose to appreciate all that your body allows you to do: walk, run, bend down, jump, carry, lift… Even if your belly is a bit too flabby, remember that it is there to protect your spine when you move, sit or stand. And those stretch mark? They are battle scars–so worth it!
There is a positive side to every negative, and by looking at it more, you will be less discouraged and less likely to not continue working toward your goal.
There is a Barb’s Fit U community out there! Join us on Facebook and use the community. Together, we have gotten over discouragement, have fought cravings and procrastination, we have sweated and laughed. There’s just something about showing up and working out together… it changes us!
You and I know that the brain is hardwired to resist change, so show up and give yourself time to get where you are going.
And last but certainly not least,
Think about what you are thinking about\
I know that sounds so simplistic, but it is a key indeed. As you notice your negative thoughts, seek to replace them to something more positive. You will be amazed at the change in your thought life first of all, your attitude, and your body. You are truly what you think!