Last week we talked about the importance of making goals real. I really do believe with all of me that we ought to dream big and have very unrealistic goals so that we can reach for the stars, but within that process, we must have real attainable goals all along the way. So here is some of my same advice just in different words, because we need to hear stuff more than once, and some new advice as well:
1. Don’t bite off more than you can chew. Give yourself small victories a little at a time. You can always make new short-term objectives when you have achieved the first ones.
2. Be specific in your timeline. Don’t just say, “I am going to lose 20 pounds.” Say, “I am going to lose 20 pounds by December 15th.” This way, when you start to be tempted in the ice cream aisle in the middle of February, you can say, “Nope, only 10 more pounds to go in a month and I am not going to blow it.”
3. Post your resolutions where you will see them every day. This will keep them in the front of your mind at all times. Instead of forgetting that you are trying to lose weight and ordering a big, thick porterhouse, you will have been reminded earlier that day that you need to go with something a little on the lighter side. It will help your will beat your desire.
4. Put a daily reminder on your phone. I have one at 10 am every single day. It says, “What are you thinking about?” This is so good to bring me back to my focus if I happen to not be where I ought to be in my thinking!
4. Find someone encouraging, whom you you respect, to keep you accountable. This person should ask you, at an interval established by the both of you, how it is going. They must be the encouraging type, though. If you are blowing it, they can say, “Well, that’s okay, get back to it tomorrow.” If you are doing well, they can say, “Awesome job. I’ll talk to you next week.” You will look forward to their weekly encouragement.
5. Find a partner–someone who is trying to accomplish the same thing (or something different if need be). Just make sure that they really want to change, or they will end up just complaining about how hard it is and you will both fall into the abyss.
6. Write down a list of all of the benefits that will come if you accomplish this. If it is losing weight, it might be something like this: Feel better, better self-esteem, longer life, clothes are more comfortable, etc. This will help you see what you will get from accomplishing your goal.
7. Plan a reward for when you accomplish your goal. It can be anything from small to large. Reward yourself. Splurge and enjoy!