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Negative Self-Talk


I don’t like detours.  But sometimes they happen.  And sometimes, they are our own faulst…

I hatw to break it to you, but you indeed are  what you think.  Often, it’s your bad thinking habits that keep you from a consistent exercise program or from walking away from the 4 pm snack attack.  Figuring out distorted thinking patterns can make your life much easier, and who knows?  Maybe you will discover than exercise is fun!

Perfectionism – Also known as unrealistic expectations. If you yell at yourself for losing only five pounds instead of ten, you may be guilty of this kind of distorted thinking. Why not give yourself credit for your successes? If you’ve started exercising, yeah for you! That alone is cause for celebration! And if you’re seeing some results, that’s even better. Everything you do that makes you healthier is a success.  Focus on that and take some time to make sure your goal is realistic.

The Blame Game – Are you having trouble exercising because your gym is too far away? Or because the weather’s bad? Blaming external factors helps you (yes, you!) avoid taking responsibility for your choices.  If you’re not working out, it’s up to you to figure out why you’re not sticking to your program. Maybe you don’t like going to a gym…or maybe your workouts are too hard. Once you figure out the problem, you can take steps to rectify the situation.  Finding out your reasons might help you change your approach.

I’m a Loser, Baby – Many of us equate self-worth with success. Losing weight means we’re good, failing to lose weight means we’re bad and no one will love us. If you feel like a failure all the time, it’s almost inevitable that you will fail. Remember: what you look like is just one aspect of who you are.  Focus on the whole YOU, and not just what your body looks like; you surely are more than skin deep!  Don’t forget it: you are fabulous, Baby!

It’s Not Fair! – Have you ever wondered, “Why can’t I look like that person?”  Comparing yourself to so-and-so just sets you up for negative thoughts.  Instead of tearing yourself down, boost your own ego by thinking about how great you are (and you are, darling).

I Hate My (insert unsightly body part here)! – If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and said, “Oh my god, are those my thighs?” it’s time to take a a step back. We all have a body part we love to hate, but remember that your body allows you to walk, run, squat, and jump. Which body part are you thankful for? Which one do you like? Talk them up!

It is only when you become aware of what you are actually thinking about yourself that you can begin to tweak your thoughts.  So start thinking about what you are thinking about, and don’t let yourself lie to yourself!  You are worth so much more than that!

 

REMEMBER: It is not what happens to you, it is what you do about it.  Ed Agresta says that what happens to you, happens to everybody, so the difference is in what we do about it. If you pick yourself up after having a problem, and work on a solution and then actually do something to fix it, you can move your life ahead.  Realize that you are in control of much of what you do with the events that come your way.  Taking charge of a response, stops you from feeling like a victim, and gives you the self-confidence to handle the situation.  Take what life hands you and deal with it in some way, then you can get your life back on track.

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  1. Susan Kahle said:

    I love this post Barb…thanks.

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